How much to give?

I used to live by the motto "See a need, fill a need."  If you can help....just fucking help!  Ughhhhhh, as I get older this get's so much harder.  Yes you have a need, yes I can fill it, and would like to, but reality is I get so completely screwed and taken advantage of in MOST the endeavours, I have become a bit jaded.

There is a girl at Haven's school.  Mind you, something like 80% of his school is immigrant, living in housing flats (projects.)  There isn't money except for a very few families.  There are needs everywhere in this school, you could never get to them all, however we do our part.

This girls mother is having a really hard time.  She always reeks of alcohol, at school pick ups.  Mind you it's 3pm.  Her nails are stained yellow, and she just looks unwell.  Her daughter is the sweetest, kindest thing, but she get's picked on at school..... Oh the need...  They have no hot water.......

I pray about what I should give to them.... God said "everything.".............. My brothers and sisters in faith will say "No brainer!  Give it up biotch!"  My friends of self would say "Not your issue!"  My husband... the capitalist with a good heart, but a knowledge I don't posess that people can screw you over would say "I wish I had your heart...but no."  I haven't asked him.

This issue I think is plumbing, not money, but they have less than no money. What do I do?

I guess I would rather be taken advantage of by many, and help one, than help none..... As we get older this is still so hard!

The little girl came by after school and was just obsessed with our shower... Too much!  It's just too much.

It would be easier to just "give everything"  Maybe if I had some boundries?  Be able to say no?  I know in my hardest times, I was a user and abuser, and would take advantage of whomever.  I think this may be my repentence.  It's harder when my husband is the sole provider of the family, and filling him in I lost $ because my heart told me too, may not seem like a rational endeavour to him.

So I pray again "God how much do I give?" 

"Everything."

Wish me luck!